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ViewPoint from Madame X |
Know what to say; when to say it...
Do I talk too much or too little? This is a question that
should be posed to many individuals. Often, people communication
skills need a tune up. There is a lack of tactfulness
or just knowing when to "shut up". Each person
must be made aware of his or her own conversation. It’s
not the conversation with others but the one inside themselves.
This is where our relationship suffers because of this
problem with “knowing what to say; when to say it”.
Scores of relationships have been and are still being
lost because of the missing words or too many words. Have
you ever loved but were afraid to say or show it? Have
you ever been angry and pushed out the wrong words? These
situations have placed countless individuals into the
class of sending out incorrect signals. With these erroneous
signals, the version of actual meaning is lost.
Believe this, these absent words or numerous words aren’t
just appearing. They are products of the inner YOU. They
are determined by unwritten responses. There are five
forces that can dictate your verbal communication: anger,
fear, jealousy, pride, and conceit. These internal attitudes
can destroy you and your relationship with others. There
needs to be a moment in time with “self” in
order to determine these faucets of the internal you.
People need to widen their awareness of the effects that
temp or seize them back from exerting true meaning.
In failing to communicate the actual meaning to yourself....
you may limit the power of the message to others. Case
in point, if you find out your mate has cheated on you
and being angry you decide to change the locks on the
door. Your mate decides to agree with this move and leave
to develop a new relationship. Are you really ready for
the relationship to end? What is the true meaning behind
changing the locks: punishment or termination? This is
where you need to understand your inner-self. Often, you
have those individuals who lashed out only to want the
double dealer back. Why?
This is where knowing what to articulate and when to state
it is so crucial to your character. This is why many people
have reoccurring relationship troubles. They find themselves
in a cycle of hurt, confusion, and misery. Taking the
time to accurately enlarge what to say and when to say
it is for all relational development, mother-daughter,
father-son, brother-sister, and male-female. Be familiar
with yourself and don’t be afraid to utter or show
what is true in your heart.
Madame X
Email comments, questions, or suggestions to madamex@urbanlandmusic.com
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